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“The Best” is not Good – Check Performance

When we do, we do our best. While performing an act, we often forget that sometimes the best performance is not even good for others.  It is disappointing but the ultimate fact. This doesn’t mean that the interest with which we perform best has some lacking. This also implies to the fact that the act has been done with the purest of the intention and was targeted to bring brilliant and the best output. Then, where is the deficit? To understand this, we need to look into some facts and this has to be a real close analysis.

“Better” is not always “Good” –

We all work, at times to survive, at times to perform. Our share of effort may vary from person to person. This is to be noted that the kind of effort we put in defines the quality of outcome. Since, the effort is a dynamic attribute, even if we do better, at times it fails to meet others expectations.

Have you failed to understand? –

We should ask this question more often. In fact, we should maintain a list of self check. To perform and to deliver, understanding expectation is much needed.

Let’s understand this with an example. Say that you work for a company and there are certain set of key performance indicators. The work assigned to you demand for closure within a day. Historically the task was not completed within the time frame but things have improved and delivery as per actual time frame is now possible. Your subordinate completes the task with all his efforts but not within the same day. It is good to appreciate him/her but clearly you missed to understand the expectations. It was expected that the task should complete within a day.

Are you too difficult to feel emotions? –

Let’s say you are into customer service industry. You do a job and customer appreciates you. Be aware – Understand whether the appreciation was true or it was said out of emotional outcome. My employee performs a repair task and delivers the electronic product to customer in two days of time. Customer is happy and appreciated him despite of the fact that the said employee has not met the turnaround time. We should not be happy. Customer has not appreciated him for his work. Customer appreciated him because his previous experience might be worse. Ask yourself – Is it a healthy situation?

“Humans” are “Machine”, if they stop; they catch “Rust” –

We humans are machines. If we stop, we catch rust. Machines need continual check-up and maintenance. For us, Self-development, Self-motivation, Training, Regular Briefing and Scrutiny are the keys to stay up to mark. To my employee, my approach should exactly be in same direction. I should be encouraging him for self-development and self-motivation. To achieve this, I should be training them, coaching them, briefing them and if required should be doing a regular and periodic scrutiny.

Accept that you can’t be perfect. Accept that this may be your mistake. Accept that you will correct the wrongs. Your acceptance to the fact that you failed to perform, prepares you to perform right.

Apply above and you will see a different personality within yourself.

Recommended readings:

  1. Six Sigma - Remove Defects
  2. Tips to improve personality
  3. Manage the project effectively
  4. Transactional Analysis – Eric Berne
  5. Wear Six Hats – Edward De Bono
  6. SWOT Analysis
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Welcome to Adulthood !

So, You are a graduate now.. First and for almost all, welcome to the Adulthood! The real and truth of hardship is waiting for you. Get ready for it. Think how much fun it was when we were in college. No stress, No financial problem – Parents are there to take care of worries. Now what?

When I came to New Delhi, in 2003, I was clueless. This was not because I did not figure out what to do. This was because I was not having ample back-up to support my studies. Back then one of my alter-egos Rahul Shukla told me a story which I would like to share here..

He said, “Those who are pursuing higher degrees are there to earn a “Brahm Astra”. “Brahm Astra” in Hindu mythology is known as a super Arrow which can destroy the enemy in a jiffy. If it is released there is no question that it can miss its target. Once your rival has higher education from reputed college as Brahm Astra, it would be next to impossible to defeat him. The only way left is to break their Bow which can release the Arrow. In order to do so, one has to gather many small Arrows which are sharp and can be released without even getting stopped. This way before the rival could release his super Arrow, he is bombarded with many small arrows blocking his sight, his senses and his consciousness. You would be able to hit him hard at the right point. I understood what he wanted to say. He meant to say that I should go for small but powerful certifications and hit the target much before the others.

Check Finances and its source –

There is nothing to get offensive about it. I too have gone through similar phase in my life. We need to see our financial status before taking any further decision. It is not the only deciding factor but certainly the most important one. If you are financially sound then go for further studies and strengthen your profile. Nothing to worry, if you are going through the bad patch of your life.  There are multiple options to look at.

Explore for a quick and handy job –

Grab the first job if need be. Waiting for right opportunity is a myth. The thing which is in front of you is the Opportunity. Go and Grab it. Think later on what needs to be corrected. Anything you do will be a value addition and ultimately becomes your experience. Feel confident about it.

Problems are of two type, Don’t worry and face it –

Problems are of two types. a. Problem which comes with solutions and can be fixed immediately.  Problems which are required to be judged and acted as in when time demands. Give time to your problems. You are the best to solve your problems, No one else can.

Stay Calm and Composed during Adulthood –

Best way to handle or deal with situation. Make a deal with yourself. You are one who can be defeated if you think so.

Strive to Learn –

Learning never stops. What stops is our endeavor. Try not to give up and learn at every step. Remember this is the time when you can make a difference.

Time is precious –

Use the most of it. Fun time has gone and will come again if time is valued. Remember, time has no attribute. Those who don’t respect time, it come as a bad time for them.

Apart from above, it is very important to focus and decide your goal. Choose you strength and related certifications wisely. Strengthen yourself and convert your strengths into your identity. Work on your weakness to convert them into Strengths. There would be no use if you avail many certifications and all from different fields of study.

Once you are aimed and you do it. In due course of time you will see yourself above your rivals. You will have knowledge, supporting certifications to support your knowledge, experience and your enhanced personality.

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Dangal a never ending fight within us

Let’s start this article with a question note. And the question is, “Have you seen Dangal by now?” If no, this movie is a must watch. The movie Dangal is a true story of Indian Wrestler ‘Mahavir Singh Phogat’ and his daughters ‘Geeta Phogat’ and ‘Babita Phogat’. The story you will get to know once you watch Dangal.

This article is not a movie review. This journal is an attempt to understand certain human behaviors which Director Nitesh Tiwari has pictured beautifully.

I am not promoting Dangal and not have any intention to encourage you to watch Dangal either. That’s your choice. I have seen Dangal and would like to share some behavioral aspects which I observed. Here I am going to voice it loud. Sit back, relax and enjoy reading this article. If you enjoyed reading it, comment your views in comment section at the end of this blog and share using social media icons listed at the end.

The whole movie is a narration and a story telling which brings audience attention instantly. We as people tend to enjoy more by listening. Probably, out of all senses our sense to hear the voices has an amazing ability. Almost 90% of the communication happens because you are able to hear or listen. Hearing is an awesome tool to developpersonality as well.

The movie Dangal is a story of ego sharing and is a perfect example of Ego Switching from one character to other. Learn Transaction Analysis and then watch this movie. You are going to see altogether a new version of Dangal then.

The summary of Dangal goes like this. Amir Khan as Mahavir Singh Phogat is an India wrestler and a National player. To take care of his family, he left wrestling and started working as a government servant. A gold medal for India in world wrestling was his dream. His ambition of gold medal which he assumed that a boy only can bring, he ended up having four daughters. He was shattered until the day; he found out that his daughters Geeta and Babita are strong enough to knock down two boys from his neighbor. Amir realized that his girls are no less than boys and decided to train his daughters the art of wrestling. Movie takes a turn when his elder daughter became the national champion and joined National Sports Academy. Geeta’s lost focus. As a result, she lost her first world wrestling event. In between a beautiful ego clash drama is filmed between Amir Khan and his elder daughter Geeta. Babita made Geeta understand the roots. Geeta then managed to bring Gold medal for India in Common wealth Games year 2010 in 55 Kg women wrestling group.

Mahavir Singh Phogat and Geeta:

An interesting human ego state study when both father and daughter went into an argument and fight. The change of coach and his daughter’s easy acceptance to it, was troubling him from inside. This is a perfect example of belongingness.

Mahavir Singh Phogat and His Wife:

A submissive nature bringing trust in relation where social obligations are challenged. Dangal is a story of Social obligations and how it was challenged. The courage to stand against social beliefs comes from the trust two people develop in due course of time.

Geeta and Babita:

The two sisters grown under same parenthood but had their own prospective to see the world outside. This is how we all develop our own personality and identity.

The Social Surrounding:

We all grow up in a social environment and we follow the rules. We are social animals. When you challenge certain rules it is not always necessary to be loud. Action speaks better than the words. You do it, you achieve it and then the society accepts you. You will face criticism and how you tackle the scenario.

Dangal is not a movie. It is a Dangal within us. Dangal is all about never ending fight.

By the way, I am still looking for an answer and do let me know if you have the one, “What happen to the coach after common wealth games. Is he still in NSA (National Sports Academy)”.