We all know to stay away from negativity. I am sure you try hard to do so as well. But is it the right approach to deal with negativity?
How do you know that someone else’s negativity is not getting into you slowly. For that matter, how do you know that you are not thinking negative.
To find the answer, I read many books and several blogs. There are several opinions around it. For me the closest is “I”. It is “I” who is the problem.
When I am not able to control a situation or when an issue is out of my control against which I tend to surrender, I become Negative.
In more simpler words, we be negative because we are not in capacity to control someone or to control a situation. Let’s understand this one simplest example – Let’s say you are working with your dream company and you are quite happy as well. But this year you got less %age hike in your pay and thus you tried to approach your manager. He is busy and you don’t have control on his schedule which is at the end leaving your problem unsolved. Slowly you start thinking negative about your manager, which in long run translates into your grown negativity towards your dream organization.
Now when we know the root cause, how can we get rid of it. It’s a mind game and hence it a psychology. One try to deal with as soon as he/she can. I can share the 5 effective ways which I apply to get rid of Negativity. Feel free to add yours in comment section. It may help others to deal with their situation.
Talk it out –
Be extrovert for a moment and let your thoughts come out. This will help you. End of the day we all know that “Sharing is Caring“
Writing Therapy –
Write whatever is in your mind on a piece of paper before you sleep. As soon as you write, you will feel something coming out of your mind. That’s the hidden anger and you are letting it go by writing it. Let it be beside your pillow overnight. Read the paper again in morning and then tear the paper. Burn it or Flush it should be the next step.
Forgive and Forget –
The simplest way to get rid or negativity is Forget. If you can’t forget then start forgiving.
Listen your favorite songs but follow a pattern –
Start with the songs which has high beats but the one you like. Slowly switch to soothing songs. No to sad songs. Remember you are trying to flush out negativity.
Reach out to neighborhood and help people who might need you –
Human mind is tuned to forget bad moments as soon as you think to help. Helping children, Serving in shelter homes, reaching out to the people who need you, are the best ways to keep yourself busy and get rid of negativity.
Everyone has their own share of thought process which they develop in due course of time. Some earn it from hard times and some from seeing others. Hope above will help you in some ways some day. Good Luck !